The Novice Submissive, the Virtual Domme and the Tangible Teacher

During the weeks following our first in-person encounter, G, as I will refer to him for the moment, came to my home as often as our respective plannings allowed. On these occasions I had him do housework and give me foot massages; used him to practice bondage on or as a foot stool; introduced him to things like clothes-pins on his nipples – which brought a tear to his eyes – and over the knee bare hand spanking which he took to straight away. As he wasn't my submissive, the most intimate thing I allowed him was to lick my feet and suck my toes. Although I will admit that I couldn't resist fondling his body whenever I got a chance to – grin.

Because of his shyness, e-mails and conversations on msn served as valuable tools for getting him to express his thoughts and feelings on his submission and his experiences during our in-person encounters.

His biggest fears initially were of failing to do things properly and not being good enough. These I was able calm easily because for me motivation is the most important part and so if something wasn't executed to my liking I would explain calmly what was wrong and how I expected it to be done.

A question that came up at the beginning was whether he should consider me as his Mistress or not. As I believe that a submissive can only have one Mistress it was decided that he should consider me as his teacher. This dynamic served to maintain a certain distance between us and contributed to him feeling that he could ask me questions that he didn't think he could ask his Domme.

Obviously I was also regularly in contact with his Domme, keeping her informed of his progress, sending her the occasional photo and discussing further training for him – although she seemed more concerned with him learning to do housework than anything else.

After a very promising start I rapidly began to see problems appearing on the horizon. G started asking me if he should continue certain things that his Domme had told him to do, such as wear stockings and use a dildo on himself. I'm not into cross-dressing and I don't see the point of a sub giving himself pleasure but told him to obey her if that's what she ordered. At the same time he seemed to very confused about whether he should now consider his cock or his ass as being his sexual organ. Some questioning revealed that he'd been told that he would be required to have passive sex with other men. I asked him that was something that appealed to him in some way and his response was: “No, but I'm ready to accept if She desires it”. When I asked her about it she replied that it was to test his motivation so I advised G to wait until he had met her before consenting to anything like that and also to think very carefully about what he might be letting himself in for.

This, and some other things that I won't go into here, was for me a sign that there were major incompatibilities between her style and mine and that we wouldn't be able to continue for very long before it became a problem. I knew I wouldn't be able to just sit back and watch her turn him into something he didn't really want to become and that if he were to continue with her I would have to retire from the picture. But I felt I had to stay in the scene a while longer otherwise I would have been abandoning him. I think that if I hadn't agreed to participate he would have got fed up with the situation and already put and end to it. As it was, he was expressing more and more his appreciation of being able to explore his submission and serve.

I encouraged them both to arrange to meet each other as soon as possible so that he could make an informed choice. To no avail. The weeks slipped past and there was always something preventing her from either coming to our city or receiving him.

Nearly 2 months had gone past when G asked me if I would be angry with him if he decided to not pursue things further with his supposed Domme. I told him that on the contrary I would be relieved if he did and why; something I hadn't done before because I felt it was necessary for him to draw his own conclusions.

A few days later he submerged me with text messages explaining why he had finally decided to put an end to a virtual relationship with a person he was now convinced was manipulator and venal. The question now was whether I was willing to continue his education or not and if so under what conditions.