Dreaming Up the Ideal Dungeon

Currently most of my fun and games take place in my bedroom where my 4-poster bed lends itself nicely as a bondage frame and most of my instruments are kept in the top drawer of a rather large chest.  I also sometimes make use of a solid ring that is in the large solid oak beam in my living room.

While these configurations do allow a wide variety of activities I sometimes feel that it would be nice to have certain items in order to ramp things up a bit and also a dedicated room for them.

So I've been having some fun dreaming up an ideal dungeon and searching for the appropriate furniture on the Internet.

Cages

 I've been wanting a cage for sometime now even though this is something that would be used more with a "live-in" submissive or at least one that spent long periods in my home.

The first type of cage that comes to mind is this:

Simple, sturdy, a great place to lock a sub away for the night if I don't plan on using him some other way. I think I would have wheels added so that I could move it around easily even (especially!) when occupied.

 But as I was searching I also came across this Cell Cage that I think would be great in the farthest corner of a dungeon.

One of the advantages of both these cages is that they can be disassembled reassembled easily. I think that's an important criteria for most if not all bdsm furniture.

Bondage Frame

Although I would definitely have the appropriate fixtures allowing me to immobilize and restrain  a submissive in various locations (end positions) installed around the dungeon I think that a good bondage frame is a must. There are 2 that have caught my attention.

 This one offers a lot of flexibility, is quick to pitch and only requires  150cm x 150cm of floor space. (Obviously this would look much better with a submissive male strung up on it).

One of the reasons I prefer this type of thing to a Saint Andrew's Cross is that I like to have easy access to all parts of a submissive, especially if I'm flogging him. This supports up to 120kg.


Another one that caught my attention is the Tetruss Portable Dungeon, Suspension Bondage Rig  that you can see being used in this video.

I think this would be great for outdoor use and parties. It has a bigger footprint than the previous frame; 2m40 triangular. The specs say that it requires 3m x 3m floor space or more, plus a ceiling height of 2m40 minimum.  They also say that it can be assembled by the average sub in 5 minutes. Another interesting thing with this rig is that there is a wide selection of accessories available. It supports up to 300kg so could be used to suspend 2 subs at the same time.

Queening and "Cunni" Chairs

I've been thinking about one of these for quite some time now. The main problem is finding something that is visually pleasing and comfortable as most that I have seen appear to be neither. I think that ideally this item would have to be made to measure.

One that is interesting is this one. It's called the "Burnice" Fun Stool" although I've baptized it the "Cunni Chair". Once again this pic would have been better with a submissive male attached to it, especially as that would leave the part that maintains the submissive's head in place visible.






The last item for today is another one that I've wanted to have for a long time, even though I currently don't have a sub that's into anal in anyway.  

I'm talking about a fucking machine. 
This particular one has the reputation of being robust. The speed is variable; up to 225 thrusts per minute and it has a 7 inch stroke length. Another feature which makes it a must is the remote. I can see myself sitting facing a sub, enjoying myself immensely as I play with the remote and look into his eyes while he's getting his arse pounded.  

Other items would include racks for my instruments, preferably inside shallow cupboards that can be closed and locked and some security cameras that I could monitor from my laptop for when I want to leave a sub unattended for some time. And of course more toys

My New Rope

Back in 2011 I wrote about a bondage session using white nylon rope and following examples found on the Two Knotty Boys website. The Two Knotty Boys' videos continue to be a source of inspiration and instruction for me in spite of there not being any additions for a long time. I had noticed that they used very thick rope in a lot of the videos and as they indicate the lengths and thickness of the rope used at the end of the videos in question I started to search for some.

Local DIY shops didn't have anything nearly as thick as what I was looking for and it was finally on Amazon.com that I found what looked like it was what I wanted. However because of the cost of shipping to France and customs I was a bit reluctant to invest a considerable amount of money in something that might finally not be what I needed (or should I say desire).

It was only in January this year whilst ordering another (non bdsm related) item on Amazon that I found the rope still in my shopping basket (clever Amazon). A bit of research showed me that the price of the 2 items on the French Amazon site (where the rope was now being sold as well) was significantly more than on Amazon.com. Partly because there was a special deal on the 1st item but mainly because the sellers on Amazon.fr are (in my opinion) too greedy. To cut a long story short the 2 items on Amazon.com cost less than the price of just the rope on Amazon.fr in spite of shipping and customs so I decided that I would go for the rope.

And I am so happy I did!

A length of my new rope

It's very thick, heavy, and soft: A real pleasure to handle (and apparently being tied up with it is equally pleasurable). A great choice for rope-play.

I love the chunkiness of the knots produced with it - I think they're better suited to a bondage on a submissive male.

Another positive point is that it has a safe working load of 300 lbs which is more than enough for suspensions (I just need some solid beams to be able to do that).














And the cherry on the icing is that C bought himself a black spandex body suit.












The caveat is that normally to stop the ends from fraying you should burn them but that makes them hard and scratchy which is not a very pleasant sensation. But I have dipped mine in candle wax (I used the wax from a tea-light which seems to be softer than normal candle wax and therefore less brittle and likely to crumble with use) to prevent the fraying.

I'll see how long that lasts but in the mean time it's much softer on the skin and easier to pull through existing knots without snagging and it doesn't take long to do.

A Quick Update

Things have been a bit busy since my last post. I got back from a short break in Turkey a couple of days ago and have just been to meet my 4^th grandchild who was born early this morning. I also have a second submissive, another G, so from now on I will refer to my young pub as “Follow”, the slave name I chose for him last year. In this part of the world, the first letter of a dog's name corresponds to the year of birth. Last year it was “F” and I'd decided that my slave must follow me without me overly worrying about the accursed hows. Recent events have once again confirmed my belief that he will indeed follow me where I intend to go.

But back to my new submissive, G. I met him at a play party over a month ago although I didn't play with him at all. He systematically came and sat at my feet whenever the occasion presented itself and generally made him self useful getting me drinks, lighting my cigarettes and holding an ashtray for me. Not particularly good looking but pleasant and obviously trying to charm me and gain my favours for something more serious than a spanking session.

The request to be allowed to apply for consideration (translation of some flowery French) arrived a few days later by e-mail. He lives a long way away from me and I've no idea how he will fit in with my plans but real service orientated subs aren't that easy to find. So I explained the current situation and told him that although I had no idea how it could work out with the distance, and more importantly, our differences in fetish tastes, I would give him a chance.

So far it's been too virtual for me in spite of flowers for Valentine's day, numerous e-mails and almost daily phone calls. However the next two days should help me to get a better idea while showing him what I expect from a submissive male. He's arriving tomorrow morning and staying until Friday evening. 

I feel I have to be very careful here as he is obviously falling for me in a big way. So the quicker I can evaluate whether there is really a match or not, the better.

Introduction

The purpose of this blog is to share my story, my ideas and my opinions on FemDom. These are obviously a reflection of how I choose to express my dominance and my viewpoint, nothing more, nothing less. So unless you are a submissive male hoping to get to serve me*, you don't have to agree with me. In fact I'm always interested to hear different viewpoints as long as they're not presented to me as the ONLY valid one.

So who am I and what am I about?

I have to admit that this is not a question that is easy to answer when you've got the same feeling you get when leaving a message on an answering machine (yuck!). So I'm just going to have some fun with this and do a "pèle-mèle" portrait of my self.

I sometimes feel like the Domme in the picture on the left

(and although divorced, I have found myself in similar situations with my children).

Ideally I would like to look something like this:

But in reality this is what I look like:

(my slave says I'm "maginifique!!!", a lovely typo for those who understand some French, and no that isn't him on the photo)

For me being the dominant partner is all about:

Growth (his and mine), Responsibility, Respect, Creativity, Educational skills, Self-Mastery, Empathy... and a lot of fun.


I don't share the opinion of those who think that women are superior to men and should run the world. In fact I'm more inclined to agree with a recently read tweet :

If women ruled the world there would be no wars. Just a bunch of jealous countries not talking to each other.

I personally don't feel superior to anyone, or inferior for that matter and I'm not looking for inferiority, I'm looking for complementarity.

Experience

An observer all my life
10 years of active kink
5 years as a Domme
8 months and still going strong as the owner of a slave who is surpassing my dreams.

Goals

My main goal at this moment is to carry on educating my slave the best I can whilst putting in place the means for us to live our relationship the way we both desire to: to the full. Neither of us are looking for a OWK style relationship but we do want to have the privacy and leisure to live on our own terms which are of course My terms.

Misc.

Most of the people I socialize with are into different flavours of BDSM.

Tomorrow I will start telling the story of how a sub who seemed the least suitable choice for me is turning out to be one of the best things that have happened in my life.

*Note to submissive males: If you stick around a little while you will see that I am not currently looking for another sub. This will change in the future but will take place through a different channel so please realise that any solicitations via this blog will be ignored - thanks.