How a Stray Pup Finds his Way to My Front Door

A Domme who I had met on a few occasions and chatted with on msn from time to time approached me in late March to ask me if I would be willing to meet a sub she was interested in for her. She lives several hours away from the city in which I and the sub in question both live in and wanted to make sure that he was genuine before starting to make arrangements to meet him in person. In return, and in the event of course that he was a genuine sub, she proposed to lend him to me whenever I wanted to use him.

I was in a relationship that was in the process of coming to an end for the second time in 6 months and feeling the frustration that comes from not being able to do all that I had lined up for a sub because he was going cold turkey. So the idea of having access to some no-strings-for-me service and a “victim” to practice on was very tempting and we came to the agreement that I would check him out and even start training him for her.

When she gave me his msn id and told me where he lived I realised that I'd turned this sub down a couple of months previously when he'd contacted me on a dating site. For me he was too young, only 28, and his profession incompatible with the relationship I have in mind. But in the context of our arrangement these arguments became non issues. I wasn't planning on using him for more than some house cleaning and to practice bondage on and I didn't expect the arrangement to last very long either, even if he was as sincere as his Domme seemed to think him to be.

A few days later she started up a 3 way chat, gave him his orders (which were to follow mine) and then left us. A rapid webcam session revealed a good looking but shy young man. I answered his questions and reassured him a bit, then, having agreed on a date and time convenient for both of us for him to present himself and serve me for a couple of hours, said goodnight.

Introduction

The purpose of this blog is to share my story, my ideas and my opinions on FemDom. These are obviously a reflection of how I choose to express my dominance and my viewpoint, nothing more, nothing less. So unless you are a submissive male hoping to get to serve me*, you don't have to agree with me. In fact I'm always interested to hear different viewpoints as long as they're not presented to me as the ONLY valid one.

So who am I and what am I about?

I have to admit that this is not a question that is easy to answer when you've got the same feeling you get when leaving a message on an answering machine (yuck!). So I'm just going to have some fun with this and do a "pèle-mèle" portrait of my self.

I sometimes feel like the Domme in the picture on the left

(and although divorced, I have found myself in similar situations with my children).

Ideally I would like to look something like this:

But in reality this is what I look like:

(my slave says I'm "maginifique!!!", a lovely typo for those who understand some French, and no that isn't him on the photo)

For me being the dominant partner is all about:

Growth (his and mine), Responsibility, Respect, Creativity, Educational skills, Self-Mastery, Empathy... and a lot of fun.


I don't share the opinion of those who think that women are superior to men and should run the world. In fact I'm more inclined to agree with a recently read tweet :

If women ruled the world there would be no wars. Just a bunch of jealous countries not talking to each other.

I personally don't feel superior to anyone, or inferior for that matter and I'm not looking for inferiority, I'm looking for complementarity.

Experience

An observer all my life
10 years of active kink
5 years as a Domme
8 months and still going strong as the owner of a slave who is surpassing my dreams.

Goals

My main goal at this moment is to carry on educating my slave the best I can whilst putting in place the means for us to live our relationship the way we both desire to: to the full. Neither of us are looking for a OWK style relationship but we do want to have the privacy and leisure to live on our own terms which are of course My terms.

Misc.

Most of the people I socialize with are into different flavours of BDSM.

Tomorrow I will start telling the story of how a sub who seemed the least suitable choice for me is turning out to be one of the best things that have happened in my life.

*Note to submissive males: If you stick around a little while you will see that I am not currently looking for another sub. This will change in the future but will take place through a different channel so please realise that any solicitations via this blog will be ignored - thanks.