tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31536464393514893772024-03-06T02:00:00.801+01:00Mistress in France - Dream, Dare, DoMy thoughts on FemDom in general and how I have chosen to express my personal dominance.Mistress in Francehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10149502800821930695noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125truetag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3153646439351489377.post-34165620149765812222015-10-18T18:02:00.000+02:002015-10-18T18:02:31.374+02:00Dreaming Up the Ideal DungeonCurrently most of my fun and games take place in my bedroom where my 4-poster bed lends itself nicely as a bondage frame and most of my instruments are kept in the top drawer of a rather large chest. I also sometimes make use of a solid ring that is in the large solid oak beam in my living room.<br />
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While these configurations do allow a wide variety of activities I sometimes feel that it would be nice to have certain items in order to ramp things up a bit and also a dedicated room for them.<br />
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So I've been having some fun dreaming up an ideal dungeon and searching for the appropriate furniture on the Internet.<br />
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I've been wanting a cage for sometime now even though this is something that would be used more with a "live-in" submissive or at least one that spent long periods in my home.<br />
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The first type of cage that comes to mind is this:<br />
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Simple, sturdy, a great place to lock a sub away for the night if I don't plan on using him some other way. I think I would have wheels added so that I could move it around easily even (especially!) when occupied.<br />
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But as I was searching I also came across this Cell Cage that I think would be great in the farthest corner of a dungeon.<br />
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One of the advantages of both these cages is that they can be <span class="goog-text-highlight">disassembled reassembled easily. I think that's an important criteria for most if not all bdsm furniture.</span><br />
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<span class="goog-text-highlight">Although I would definitely have the appropriate fixtures allowing me to immobilize and restrain a submissive in various locations (end positions) installed around the dungeon I think that a good bondage frame is a must. There are 2 that have caught my attention.</span><br />
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<span class="goog-text-highlight"> <a href="http://peitschenhandel.de/de/bdsm-moebel/stahlmoebel/bdsm-moebel-bondage-rahmen.xml" target="_blank">This one </a>offers a lot of flexibility, is quick to pitch and only requires 150cm x 150cm of </span><span class="goog-text-highlight"><span class="goog-text-highlight">floor space</span>. (Obviously this would look much better with a submissive male strung up on it).</span><br />
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<span class="goog-text-highlight">One of the reasons I prefer this type of thing to a Saint Andrew's Cross is that I like to have easy access to all parts of a submissive, especially if I'm flogging him. This </span><span class="">supports up to 120kg.</span><br />
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<span class="goog-text-highlight">Another one that caught my attention is the <a href="http://www.tetruss.com/" target="_blank">Tetruss</a> Portable Dungeon, Suspension Bondage Rig that you can see being used in this video.</span><br />
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<span class="goog-text-highlight">I think this would be great for outdoor use and parties. It has a bigger footprint than the previous frame; 2m40 triangular. The <a href="http://www.tetruss.com/Tetruss-Bondage-Suspension-Rig.specs.html" target="_blank">specs </a>say that it requires 3m x 3m floor space or more, plus a ceiling height of 2m40 minimum. They also say that it can be assembled by the average sub in 5 minutes. Another interesting thing with this rig is that there is a wide selection of accessories available. It supports up to 300kg so could be used to suspend 2 subs at the same time.</span><br />
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<span class="goog-text-highlight">I've been thinking about one of these for quite some time now. The main problem is finding something that is visually pleasing and comfortable as most that I have seen appear to be neither. I think that ideally this item would have to be made to measure.</span><br />
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<span class="goog-text-highlight">The last item for today is another one that I've wanted to have for a long time, even though I currently don't have a sub that's into anal in anyway. </span><br />
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<span class="goog-text-highlight">I'm talking about a <a href="http://www.sexmachines.co.uk/bondage-love-machine-335-p.asp" target="_blank">fucking machine</a>. </span><br />
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Mistress in Francehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10149502800821930695noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3153646439351489377.post-79438555307599395432015-03-20T10:30:00.000+01:002015-03-20T10:30:01.105+01:00C's Phantasms<br />
Here are the phantasms C shared with me when I invited him to do so:<br />
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- To be dominated and to serve a gloved lady, dressed in a corset (your suits you marvelously on the photo), a skirt (leather or latex), black stockings and high-heeled shoes.<br />
- Kiss shoes and stocking-sheathed legs up to the knees.<br />
- Wear a hood (but retain sight)<br />
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- Wear an arm-binder or <span class="st">straitjacket</span><br />
- Nipple clamps<br />
- Undergo whip / cane / crop on buttocks and make me wear a gag if I moan.</blockquote>
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We have already explored most of these although sometimes a little improvisation has been necessary. For instance neither he nor I have a <span class="st">straitjacket but I was able to tie his arms in the position they would be in if he were in a </span><span class="st">straitjacket. </span><br />
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<span class="st">We have also played with cling-film and I introduced him to wax play after pushing his boundary on blindfolds. He has also been caned on several occasions (and he loves it).</span><br />
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<span class="st">Another phantasm he mentioned during our conversations is to be firmly tied on a bed, face down, and to be whipped with nettles. I'm waiting for the nettles to put forth nice young potent stems and leaves :-)</span><br />
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<span class="st">One thing that he never mentioned was the control of his sexuality. I have recently started to work on that side of things and he seems to be appreciating having to ask for permission to masturbate and being denied sometimes. The most recent activity added involves him masturbating while kneeling in front of me. I thought his shyness would hamper his progress but he was so worked up after being denied, flogged and whipped that it wasn't. Another addition is teaching him how to worship my pussy with his tongue.</span><br />
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<span class="st">He's definitely a pain slut and his fetishism for my feet isn't at all affected by any sexual release he may have just had so all I need to do is tell him to kiss my feet to maintain his submissiveness :-)</span><br />
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<span class="st">Interesting times are ahead.</span><br />
<span class="st"><br /></span>Mistress in Francehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10149502800821930695noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3153646439351489377.post-41150616615825042292015-03-18T10:00:00.000+01:002015-03-18T10:00:06.811+01:00My New RopeBack in 2011 I wrote about a bondage session using white nylon rope and following examples found on the <a href="http://www.knottyboys.com/">Two Knotty Boys website</a>. The Two Knotty Boys' videos continue to be a source of inspiration and instruction for me in spite of there not being any additions for a long time. I had noticed that they used very thick rope in a lot of the videos and as they indicate the lengths and thickness of the rope used at the end of the videos in question I started to search for some.<br />
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Local DIY shops didn't have anything nearly as thick as what I was looking for and it was finally on <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0009WG66G/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=B0009WG66G&linkCode=as2&tag=thechogougur-20&linkId=OVRPBVHKWXEQR6Y5">Amazon.com</a> that I found what looked like it was what I wanted. However because of the cost of shipping to France and customs I was a bit reluctant to invest a considerable amount of money in something that might finally not be what I needed (or should I say desire).<br />
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It was only in January this year whilst ordering another (non bdsm related) item on Amazon that I found the rope still in my shopping basket (clever Amazon). A bit of research showed me that the price of the 2 items on the French Amazon site (where the rope was now being sold as well) was significantly more than on Amazon.com. Partly because there was a special deal on the 1st item but mainly because the sellers on Amazon.fr are (in my opinion) too greedy. To cut a long story short the 2 items on Amazon.com cost less than the price of just the rope on Amazon.fr in spite of shipping and customs so I decided that I would go for the rope.<br />
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And I am so happy I did!<br />
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It's very thick, heavy, and soft: A real pleasure to handle (and apparently being tied up with it is equally pleasurable). A great choice for rope-play.<br />
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I love the chunkiness of the knots produced with it - I think they're better suited to a bondage on a submissive male.<br />
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Another positive point is that it has <span class="a-size-small a-color-secondary">a safe working load of 300 lbs which is more than enough for suspensions (I just need some solid beams to be able to do that).</span><br />
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And the cherry on the icing is that C bought himself a black spandex body suit. <br />
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The caveat is that normally to stop the ends from fraying you should burn them but that makes them hard and scratchy which is not a very pleasant sensation. But I have dipped mine in candle wax (I used the wax from a tea-light which seems to be softer than normal candle wax and therefore less brittle and likely to crumble with use) to prevent the fraying. <br />
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I'll see how long that lasts but in the mean time it's much softer on the skin and easier to pull through existing knots without snagging and it doesn't take long to do.Mistress in Francehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10149502800821930695noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3153646439351489377.post-34328917431761946142015-03-16T10:00:00.000+01:002015-03-16T10:00:00.984+01:00Introducing CC first contacted me last summer with an pm on Fetlife. Not really the place I expected to find a submissive, even if I do receive pms from submissives seeking a relationship from time to time, but then life is full of surprises and sometimes they are good ones. He very politely explained that he had had phantasms since his adolescence (he's 32, the same age as Follow) but as he had never encountered someone with whom he could explore them they had so far remained just phantasms and so he had decided that it was time to actively search someone experienced. Which is why he was contacting me as he had seen my profile on a regional bdsm site and found me on Fetlife (I discovered later on that he had scoured this blog as well but he hasn't been back since I told him which ISP he uses and how I know lol). <br />
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I responded with an invitation to tell me more about his phantasms and we continued to exchange messages throughout the following few months (summer holidays and a peak work load meant that it wasn't possible for me to initiate a physical meeting for some time). His phantasms are quite different to Follow's (except for bondage) and I saw the possibility of exploring things that hadn't really been possible with F because F wasn't really into pain (well he was more towards the end than in the beginning but he still didn't get any pleasure out of being flogged more than lightly and I find no pleasure in inflicting pain on someone who doesn't enjoy it).<br />
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Exploring new things and initiating a novice are things I enjoy and so without any expectations as to where this would go, invited C to my place at the beginning of November with the reassurance that he would live to tell the tale. <br />
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He was very nervous when he arrived "armed" with a box of (absolutely delicious, no, scrumptious would be a better word) chocolates. We had a drink and chatted a bit before I had him strip off his clothes, collared him, and then lead him upstairs to my bedroom where I have all my instruments and a four-poster bed which serves as a good replacement for a St Andrew's cross. There I tied him between the posts and we started our exploration of the real extent of his masochism. Nipple clamps, flogging, whipping, he soaked it all in and had a hard-on most of the time. After-care consisted of more chatting and another drink before sending him home. It wasn't easy to tell what was going on inside him but C had no problems expressing that by email the next day when things had had time to settle a little. The resulting email described the sensations and emotions he had experienced, the effect they (and the marks on his body) continued to have on him throughout the following day and expressed the desire to be allowed to come and kneel at my feet again.<br />
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And so began an interesting exploration of which I will talk more about in the following days and, I hope, months.<br />
<br />Mistress in Francehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10149502800821930695noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3153646439351489377.post-38801235385100137052015-03-15T16:55:00.001+01:002015-03-15T22:29:57.874+01:00So I'm backAs Google has had second thoughts on what would have boiled down to closing down any blogs containing "sexually explicit or graphic nude images or video" I can go ahead with my plan of reviving this blog. Although reviving isn't really the correct term as the blog has continued to receive visitors regularly in spite of no new posts since 2011. No, it's more an intention to start blogging again.<br />
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As to be expected a lot of things have happened in the past three and a half years. I moved twice which meant that at one point Follow was a 5-hour train trip away. But that didn't stop him and we spent many weekends together during the 2 years I lived there. Sadly my next move, while at last meaning that we were living close enough to spend more time together and move forward in our relationship, arrived at a time when his personal and professional problems increased significantly and he went into depressive bouts which seriously affected our relationship.<br />
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Finally after 18 months of long periods of silence followed by long discussions online and very little time actually spent together it all came to an end last month. Follow had often said that there was something very strong that kept us together in spite of all the difficulties but even a strong chain will weaken if it gets chipped at over a long period of time and that's what had happened. I felt a lot of sadness when I decided that there was no point in continuing in the hope of things turning around when the same pattern kept on repeating itself. But at the same time I knew that what I was really mourning were simply the plans we had made together and which had no chance of becoming a reality unless he was able to put a distance between our relationship and his job and other obligations, which is something he isn't capable of doing, at least not now.<br />
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What remains is a lot of happy memories of time spent together which involved a lot of worshiping, bondage, fisting, torture and simply cuddling on the sofa while we watched a DVD. I sincerely hope he gets his life together and finds peace and happiness.<br />
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During the past 18 months I have also been meeting new prospective submissives as, as I have already mentioned, the objective was always to have 2 or 3 (although I am realizing that time-wise this isn't such an easy thing to pull off, at least not at the moment). As usual there have been a lot of time-wasting wannabe's who when it's time to move into reality come up with an excuse as to why they can't present themselves as arranged.<br />
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Then there were others who simply weren't a match. Being into the same activities isn't enough. If I'm going to "play" with a body I have to find it attractive and there are also times when it's nice to have a conversation, even if the sub is kneeling naked at my feet.<br />
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There is also the question of attitude; I expect the same attitude of respect and attentiveness to my needs at all times including when out socializing. On one occasion I took part in a bondage picnic and the sub accompanying me wandered around leisurely as though he were there on his own. I have no patience for people like that, they're only interested in getting their particular kinky needs met.<br />
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Happily a good match appeared through an unexpected venue: <a href="https://fetlife.com/" target="_blank">Fetlife</a>.<br />
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But I'll tell you all about that in my next post.Mistress in Francehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10149502800821930695noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3153646439351489377.post-13871408582918411172015-02-25T19:56:00.001+01:002015-02-25T20:01:07.377+01:00Forwarding AddressJust as I was thinking about reviving this blog I
receive an email from blogger informing me that they will no longer
allow certain sexually explicit content as from March 23rd. As I’m not
really sure what they consider as sexually explicit (but they probably won't like the pics of naked subs) I guess it’s better
for me to start moving my content now.<br />
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It'll probably take me a while to set up shop the way I want to over there but here's where you'll find me from now on: <a href="http://mistressinfrance.tumblr.com/">http://mistressinfrance.tumblr.com/</a><br />
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What annoys me the most about Google's U-turn is that there may be blogs that I won't be able to access again in the future. I'm thinking particularly of saratoga's excellent blog "<a href="http://ondominance.blogspot.fr/" target="_blank">On Female Dominance of the male</a>" even though there have been no new posts since December 2011 when he stopped posting, leaving a caretaker in place to keep it alive. I hope a solution will be found to avoid it being lost forever.</div>
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<a href="http://mistressinfrance.tumblr.com/"></a> Mistress in Francehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10149502800821930695noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3153646439351489377.post-62179403087688982622011-11-05T17:05:00.000+01:002011-11-05T17:05:31.454+01:00My Young Pup in his ElementWe were blessed with some really beautiful weather last month so my young pup and I took the opportunity to spend some time in a nearby forest. <br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgHMMXUetnNDEH5FwEkIcT5WrALVwNPxBNXbcNAroSgdzmVrACINcO2jfhMZXxe_g50U2sRSVAJVsNd4a5c5HNpWBTwa_8Ra2lTB1tBErN9WkzBM-JgIDzAtkrSxGobsrWyE6n_Eebef0GW/s1600/En+foret+002_blog.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgHMMXUetnNDEH5FwEkIcT5WrALVwNPxBNXbcNAroSgdzmVrACINcO2jfhMZXxe_g50U2sRSVAJVsNd4a5c5HNpWBTwa_8Ra2lTB1tBErN9WkzBM-JgIDzAtkrSxGobsrWyE6n_Eebef0GW/s320/En+foret+002_blog.jpg" width="240" /></a>Follow proved to be very good at finding secluded spots and it's funny to see him disappear into ferns and brambles only to reappear further along the path with a big smile on his face. He's also very good at beating a path suitable for me to access the chosen spot for our fun and games. He's definitely a good dog in that respect.<br />
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Most of our time there was spent on puppy training and it was really lovely to have lots of space to lead him around on my leash. Even better though was being able to have him pee against a tree.<br />
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The only inconvenience was that with all the leaves on the ground some toys got left behind. My young pup has been back there a couple of times since (he goes running as often as possible) but hasn't yet seen a squirrel brandishing a riding crop, grin. I must train him to take better care of my belongings.Mistress in Francehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10149502800821930695noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3153646439351489377.post-29535829572630024252011-06-17T20:47:00.000+02:002011-06-17T20:47:55.473+02:00Today's Mood in MusiqueFollowing today's previous post<br />
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A busy schedule leaves me little time for writing at the moment so I'm just posting a photo to mark the event.<br />
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</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">The two day trial with the submissive G was not decisive or perhaps I should say that it was. Not that I could find fault with G; as a submissive he is genuine and I like him as a person. But I felt no physical attraction for him and reading the diary he had started as soon as I had agreed to give him a try revealed that he had hopes of vanilla stuff like cuddling. This prompted me to put an end to things quickly. Not an easy thing to do but we got over it and since then G has renewed with his former Mistress. </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">This trial of bringing a second sub into the scene has made some things very clear: To start with it's too soon, I've still got a lot to do to make the base solid, my pup still has a lot to learn, and so do I. The other thing is that I need to think more about how other subs can integrate and be integrated in the big picture, bearing in mind that, although my search didn't include anything romantic, I've got all the romantic I could ever dream of.</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">In the mean time my slave Follow is being true to his slave name. Recent events and opportunities have brought me to a place where I can envisage making my next moves towards my main goals. This involves my moving home several hundred kilometres away before the end of the year. I explained all of this to my pet because I wanted to know if he was really ready to follow me and if so what conditions needed to be provided for. This resulted in a steam of assurances, confessions, more time spent together, small symbolic gifts, more and more opening up and a plead to be tattooed. </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">The energy from all this is fuelling my progression towards my goals and colouring them at the same time. I can feel the things I desire moving closer and closer, much closer than I'd felt them just a few months ago.</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">And while things are lining themselves up nicely for my next move forward I've also had opportunities to improve my bondage techniques. During his 2 day stay, I took G to an SM club where a bondage workshop was being held. It turned out that it was shibari where the knots are quite simple (but solid), and symmetry is at best ignored. Whereas most of my efforts have been spent trying to achieve a prettier style more in line with what the two knotty boys teach. I learnt some useful things like how to join to lengths of rope together easily and solidly and some suspension techniques. Although I can't explore the suspension techniques out just yet for want of some very solid, conveniently placed ceiling hooks or better. </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="float: right; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj6FtqmrIeleJ9KC2QYnRWTel9mDP81jdWntZAQkJ98HBFNewxI_V1o016DpNOoYaiR6kwbIXuCZXa1oiALF0FVANLNhs-jQBvNmR-rDVgaLB94Fv1RiDWXuGEUtc00shMYHSdVEZRYkLox/s1600/bondage_march_2011.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj6FtqmrIeleJ9KC2QYnRWTel9mDP81jdWntZAQkJ98HBFNewxI_V1o016DpNOoYaiR6kwbIXuCZXa1oiALF0FVANLNhs-jQBvNmR-rDVgaLB94Fv1RiDWXuGEUtc00shMYHSdVEZRYkLox/s1600/bondage_march_2011.jpg" /></a></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">I have tried out combining my newly learned techniques with my obsessiveness for symmetry on my young pup and I am pleased with the result. The bigger, less decorative knots are not only easier to tie, they also look good on a male submissive and allow a tighter fit. The bondage starts with rope doubled and worked around the hands before being run up to shoulder-blade height, around my pup's arms and back round to loop round itself and move back in the opposite direction this time slightly lower in order to make the breast area more prominent. Once the solid base providing “hookage” for attaching my pup to a hook in the ceiling was finished, I ran the two ends of the rope separately around his body incorporating more symmetry and aiming to outline different parts of his body. To finish off some simple binding of his legs down to just below his knees prevented him from being able to achieve more than a hobble over to where I was to string him up before adding nipple clamps. He was in heaven, he could hardly move, couldn't see anything and had no choice but undergo any torturing or teasing inspired by seeing him there like that while I sat working on my computer, just a riding crop's length away.</div>Mistress in Francehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10149502800821930695noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3153646439351489377.post-12371283257727614022011-03-02T23:00:00.000+01:002011-03-02T23:00:44.282+01:00A Quick Update<div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">Things have been a bit busy since my last post. I got back from a short break in Turkey a couple of days ago and have just been to meet my 4<sup>th</sup> grandchild who was born early this morning. I also have a second submissive, another G, so from now on I will refer to my young pub as “Follow”, the slave name I chose for him last year. In this part of the world, the first letter of a dog's name corresponds to the year of birth. Last year it was “F” and I'd decided that my slave must follow me without me overly worrying about the accursed hows. Recent events have once again confirmed my belief that he will indeed follow me where I intend to go.</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">But back to my new submissive, G. I met him at a play party over a month ago although I didn't play with him at all. He systematically came and sat at my feet whenever the occasion presented itself and generally made him self useful getting me drinks, lighting my cigarettes and holding an ashtray for me. Not particularly good looking but pleasant and obviously trying to charm me and gain my favours for something more serious than a spanking session.</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">The request to be allowed to apply for consideration (translation of some flowery French) arrived a few days later by e-mail. He lives a long way away from me and I've no idea how he will fit in with my plans but real service orientated subs aren't that easy to find. So I explained the current situation and told him that although I had no idea how it could work out with the distance, and more importantly, our differences in fetish tastes, I would give him a chance.</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">So far it's been too virtual for me in spite of flowers for Valentine's day, numerous e-mails and almost daily phone calls. However the next two days should help me to get a better idea while showing him what I expect from a submissive male. He's arriving tomorrow morning and staying until Friday evening. </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"><br />
</div><div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">I feel I have to be very careful here as he is obviously falling for me in a big way. So the quicker I can evaluate whether there is really a match or not, the better. </div><div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"><br />
</div>Mistress in Francehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10149502800821930695noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3153646439351489377.post-12541229267233643852011-02-05T10:23:00.003+01:002011-02-05T10:23:00.735+01:00A Nice Surprise<p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">Yesterday evening my young pup surprised me by announcing that he's been working on his English for the last two months. This was during an exchange of text messages during one of his rest periods as he's on service. I'm not a great fan of texting but it does allow us to stay in contact more easily and it allows him to communicate more freely than when actually in my presence. It also has the added advantage of allowing me to reread and transcribe the most interesting parts of a conversation after the fact. It's very useful for picking up on things that I might have missed during a phone conversation and in this case for sharing here some snippets.</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">And so, he announced that he's been working on his English because he believes that I deserve to own a dog who is cultivated, and after I had thanked and congratulated him he started to text in English:</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"></p><blockquote>"Thank you very much. i am your slave and it is a great honour."</blockquote><p></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">To this I replied that I'm sure that hearing him say that to me with his French accent will surely be an even greater turn on, his response:</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"></p><blockquote>"i don't know, you will make me shy if i speak to you in english."</blockquote><p></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">Knowing him it probably will. I'm going to have to do some serious thinking on how to help him on this. His shyness is very sweet but it sure complicates things at times.</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">And so it continued:</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"></p><blockquote>"ok i imagine that i leave you alone to look at your film. I'm going to take a shower mistress."</blockquote><p></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"></p><blockquote>"i am your dog. If you need to say to me something, i am here for you."</blockquote><p></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"></p><blockquote>"Never mind I don't sleep yet. Would you like to talk a little?"</blockquote><p></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"></p><blockquote>"I am in bed"</blockquote><p></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"></p><blockquote>"right, yes i finish my work, i go at home only tomorrow, i wear only a tee shirt, je peux le retirer, excuse me i don't know to say it."</blockquote><p></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"></p><blockquote>"Thank you but i have to practice more and more; i am naked. I belong to you, you are my new life"</blockquote><p></p> <blockquote>"when i feel your hands on my body, on my skin, I fall in love"</blockquote> <blockquote>"so i had a hard-on. You like very much to make me have a hard-on. So it could be wonderful and fascinating if i often could have a hard-on every day."</blockquote> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"></p><blockquote>"You also seduce me each time, it's great; i have no regret, no fear with you. I trust in you. I feel very well with you."</blockquote><p></p> <blockquote>"In this moment, i don't have a hard-on, but in my mind, i am very excited by you. I can't resist. There is no doubt, i am your dog."</blockquote> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"></p><blockquote>"It is hard to be not with you. You deserve a good dog, so I do my best."</blockquote><p></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"></p><blockquote>"Have a good night and sweet dreams, you are a wonderful Mistress."</blockquote><p></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">So there is room for improvement. But I'm just over the moon that he's making the effort to learn through his own initiative. I find it very significant and it fits in very nicely with my plans. And last but not least, his messages are just as sweet in English as they are in French.</p>Mistress in Francehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10149502800821930695noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3153646439351489377.post-38139365583074196572011-02-04T08:49:00.002+01:002011-02-04T08:55:27.847+01:00Friday Fun<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjv8WNtis0oKpCEM9DGRmMmlrKmj48bz_AtYOWma_JlKosczXYw71NrV30X8KmwDLyBYJBZFkxidlFzY6C5Y_YudXljbNvLyapVtUjEqVZyNcP_dvDdsDGiBLBXkLeWBmh61d9jXZ1j2HcQ/s1600/whosincharge.jpg"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 400px; height: 353px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjv8WNtis0oKpCEM9DGRmMmlrKmj48bz_AtYOWma_JlKosczXYw71NrV30X8KmwDLyBYJBZFkxidlFzY6C5Y_YudXljbNvLyapVtUjEqVZyNcP_dvDdsDGiBLBXkLeWBmh61d9jXZ1j2HcQ/s400/whosincharge.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5569738890586870002" border="0" /></a><br /><br />Have a nice weekend :)Mistress in Francehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10149502800821930695noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3153646439351489377.post-13382981795024197392011-01-28T20:34:00.014+01:002011-02-05T14:58:11.506+01:00Rope Play<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhQSdu81HXiDjTEvL6p9JJEHSdcNUPXj5dCqVZyIAIjLkDgn8VU-a9SFidVhKLd9YGKgyZDzzK9hBwzxMmWScb7qFkCFFzVBpdLX-8WSICJ8osvxc2z8YVC5JPFDVH45Q0v-KiPQLzvsEH9/s1600/bondagejan27_001.jpg"><img style="float: left; margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; cursor: pointer; width: 182px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhQSdu81HXiDjTEvL6p9JJEHSdcNUPXj5dCqVZyIAIjLkDgn8VU-a9SFidVhKLd9YGKgyZDzzK9hBwzxMmWScb7qFkCFFzVBpdLX-8WSICJ8osvxc2z8YVC5JPFDVH45Q0v-KiPQLzvsEH9/s320/bondagejan27_001.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5570204417904603346" border="0" /></a><br />Yesterday morning I tried out an idea I've been mulling over in my head for some time. I started out with a variant of the head cage for which you can find a video showing how to tie it on the <a href="http://www.knottyboys.com/">Two Knotty Boys website</a>.<br /><br />I've already tied the head cage and brought the remaining rope back up and out through the knot on the crown of the head before attaching it to a hook on the ceiling over my bed. This time I wanted to use the remaining rope to simply continue the bondage on my slave's body. So once the head cage tied, I let the remaining rope run down his back and tied another knot just <a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgqiJrSRRn8gVyrLrDrmemOse6Cl-1nGpIjYIFIgTieXAY_TSZO9Ol05a7VJTtTFs6tTulenlLrJzYlTXrXGjkYJIrutPhSbA2w-HrHwauiXnTRWHoTTxy6iPeKnLpOstmSSG4EuuHRx-rR/s1600/bondagejan27_002.jpg"><img style="float: right; margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; cursor: pointer; width: 170px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgqiJrSRRn8gVyrLrDrmemOse6Cl-1nGpIjYIFIgTieXAY_TSZO9Ol05a7VJTtTFs6tTulenlLrJzYlTXrXGjkYJIrutPhSbA2w-HrHwauiXnTRWHoTTxy6iPeKnLpOstmSSG4EuuHRx-rR/s320/bondagejan27_002.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5567348087181756658" border="0" /></a>below his collar then brought the two lengths over his shoulders, tied another knot and continued round to the back again where I tied yet another knot and then ran the rope up to the knot just below his collar and down again, tightening it to lift his head up.<br /><br />The rest I think can be figured out by looking at the photos.<br /><br />The problem I have with long lengths of rope is that it makes it harder to tie fancy knots, something I can about manage laying the rope flat on a table but not when working on a body.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhBbwSH2X7Qw4U3MknjFklEbTtoUrxD0MtfI1o8qYUTM2zTBbTfha1OIHvk0GkMfaKGoopAZ7ow177wJyE_90x01Kat3q7Me2hmWWRrbeNU-4DRfQo63Ip36Oqx1ohaQ5yrT7OBx0y1rrPH/s1600/bondagejan27_003.jpg"><img style="float: left; margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; cursor: pointer; width: 208px; height: 277px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhBbwSH2X7Qw4U3MknjFklEbTtoUrxD0MtfI1o8qYUTM2zTBbTfha1OIHvk0GkMfaKGoopAZ7ow177wJyE_90x01Kat3q7Me2hmWWRrbeNU-4DRfQo63Ip36Oqx1ohaQ5yrT7OBx0y1rrPH/s320/bondagejan27_003.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5567348270315941954" border="0" /></a>But where I really need to make progress is keeping everything symmetric and tight enough, especially with nylon rope.<br /><br />The batteries in my camera were on their last legs and so I wasn't able to take new photos once I'd readjusted the rope for symmetry.<br /><br />I think a black Spandex male version of a cat suit would be a good idea for the next time I play with white rope :)Mistress in Francehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10149502800821930695noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3153646439351489377.post-6752484371363226732011-01-14T17:31:00.004+01:002011-01-14T18:26:18.931+01:00Decisions and Evolutions<p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">So now I had to decide whether to continue as G's teacher, adopt him as my novice slave or simply end our relationship. I opted for the first solution. I enjoy his presence; as well as being physically attractive he has a pleasant, respectful and graceful character and I've never had the impression that he was expecting anything in return for his service. I couldn't see it lasting very long as for me his age and profession represented obstacles to the 24/7 relationship I'm looking to create. But I could see no reason for not continuing to just enjoy the relationship as it was and besides, I felt he needed someone to keep an eye on him and guide him to prevent him getting himself into trouble. </p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">The first thing that needed doing was to get him to clear all the shit that had been put into his head concerning D/s relationships and then have him express his desires and inclinations. Because as far as I'm concerned it isn't All about what I want and need. That sort of thinking is great in fantasy tales but not in a real relationship. That done we were ready to continue our mutual exploration on healthier terms.<br /></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhz6L9j3kJXv3t5BP_a2UEeBwEyNvDixMcvDzZQtPoeyx3Ghjla7HxmnSIketFYqjWEmcsbdpwMyuQv50c_ZUP79g2hEhoLDYb52QCY0uq1oHzcZUR9EvFkDDrjKPYOAPZLp374_cEwC7vD/s1600/boundhands.jpg"><img style="float: left; margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; cursor: pointer; width: 200px; height: 208px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhz6L9j3kJXv3t5BP_a2UEeBwEyNvDixMcvDzZQtPoeyx3Ghjla7HxmnSIketFYqjWEmcsbdpwMyuQv50c_ZUP79g2hEhoLDYb52QCY0uq1oHzcZUR9EvFkDDrjKPYOAPZLp374_cEwC7vD/s320/boundhands.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5562093560483711346" border="0" /></a>But very quickly he started to express just how deep his feelings for me were and his desire to become my slave “for at least 20 years”. To start with I tried to remain detached just as I had before when he had told me I was beautiful (after receiving him at 7:30 a.m. in my pj's!) and even teased him about my probable capabilities of swinging a flogger at 71. However there is a limit to the number of times I can hear someone as attractive as he is say to me: “You're beautiful” and “Madame, je vous aime” before I capitulate. To cut things short I started to fall in love with him, both as a slave and a man, and still am in love with him.</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">It hasn't all been plain sailing; there have been breathtakingly beautiful moments but also very painful periods filled with doubt and anger. But I don't regret one minute of it. Taking a step back and looking at all that has passed so far, I can see how getting certain buttons pushed by some of the events has helped me grow personally and that in itself is priceless.</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"><br /></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">From here onwards I will be writing about certain past events without any concerns about chronology as well as of other aspects of our relationship, my encounters with other submissive males (because it is my intention to have 3) and other related musings.</p>Mistress in Francehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10149502800821930695noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3153646439351489377.post-83724635237370107992011-01-13T20:20:00.010+01:002011-01-14T15:00:20.891+01:00The Novice Submissive, the Virtual Domme and the Tangible Teacher<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiE3AcN5QuW2TKf8JMEIf67ChT3YgimcWRD3ldnKh7EJoiHSkGNnqPDVGDtzKlkOivpg1oMwJZ9kxSgpIa2zg-9_qo5kNhyEpAf6WE1mTUSBM8IrJNTeH9loBcr9OmGOYiIXi6YW96kAtqW/s1600/g+family+jewels+bondage.jpg"><img style="float: right; margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; cursor: pointer; width: 144px; height: 192px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiE3AcN5QuW2TKf8JMEIf67ChT3YgimcWRD3ldnKh7EJoiHSkGNnqPDVGDtzKlkOivpg1oMwJZ9kxSgpIa2zg-9_qo5kNhyEpAf6WE1mTUSBM8IrJNTeH9loBcr9OmGOYiIXi6YW96kAtqW/s320/g+family+jewels+bondage.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5561761001423019954" border="0" /></a>During the weeks following <a href="http://mistressinfrance.blogspot.com/2011/01/two-white-roses-and-shy-smiling-face.html">our first in-person encounter</a>, G, as I will refer to him for the moment, came to my home as often as our respective plannings allowed. On these occasions I had him do housework and give me foot massages; used him to practice bondage on or as a foot stool; introduced him to things like clothes-pins on his nipples – which brought a tear to his eyes – and over the knee bare hand spanking which he took to straight away. As he wasn't my submissive, the most intimate thing I allowed him was to lick my feet and suck my toes. Although I will admit that I couldn't resist fondling his body whenever I got a chance to – grin. <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">Because of his shyness, e-mails and conversations on msn served as valuable tools for getting him to express his thoughts and feelings on his submission and his experiences during our in-person encounters. </p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">His biggest fears initially were of failing to do things properly and not being good enough. These I was able calm easily because for me motivation is the most important part and so if something wasn't executed to my liking I would explain calmly what was wrong and how I expected it to be done. </p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">A question that came up at the beginning was whether he should consider me as his Mistress or not. As I believe that a submissive can only have one Mistress it was decided that he should consider me as his teacher. This dynamic served to maintain a certain distance between us and contributed to him feeling that he could ask me questions that he didn't think he could ask his Domme. </p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">Obviously I was also regularly in contact with his Domme, keeping her informed of his progress, sending her the occasional photo and discussing further training for him – although she seemed more concerned with him learning to do housework than anything else. </p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">After a very promising start I rapidly began to see problems appearing on the horizon. G started asking me if he should continue certain things that his Domme had told him to do, such as wear stockings and use a dildo on himself. I'm not into cross-dressing and I don't see the point of a sub giving himself pleasure but told him to obey her if that's what she ordered. At the same time he seemed to very confused about whether he should now consider his cock or his ass as being his sexual organ. Some questioning revealed that he'd been told that he would be required to have passive sex with other men. I asked him that was something that appealed to him in some way and his response was: “No, but I'm ready to accept if She desires it”. When I asked her about it she replied that it was to test his motivation so I advised G to wait until he had met her before consenting to anything like that and also to think very carefully about what he might be letting himself in for. </p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">This, and some other things that I won't go into here, was for me a sign that there were major incompatibilities between her style and mine and that we wouldn't be able to continue for very long before it became a problem. I knew I wouldn't be able to just sit back and watch her turn him into something he didn't really want to become and that if he were to continue with her I would have to retire from the picture. But I felt I had to stay in the scene a while longer otherwise I would have been abandoning him. I think that if I hadn't agreed to participate he would have got fed up with the situation and already put and end to it. As it was, he was expressing more and more his appreciation of being able to explore his submission and serve.</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">I encouraged them both to arrange to meet each other as soon as possible so that he could make an informed choice. To no avail. The weeks slipped past and there was always something preventing her from either coming to our city or receiving him.</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjM9mQgXqaH67aOfvpkyfEAdr83Mf0qoeVwuV7zJs_jKJ0B56WZE36Oqhyg5Lnq54AoYYIkUXaJZvMgh5KEHBnDFWw2wmXoBZbooroR_MGxrElZDLLjDrPbt-EhXKQdUIosJTzOzOAzW3Bl/s1600/G-+foot+massage.jpg"><img style="float: left; margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; cursor: pointer; width: 200px; height: 197px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjM9mQgXqaH67aOfvpkyfEAdr83Mf0qoeVwuV7zJs_jKJ0B56WZE36Oqhyg5Lnq54AoYYIkUXaJZvMgh5KEHBnDFWw2wmXoBZbooroR_MGxrElZDLLjDrPbt-EhXKQdUIosJTzOzOAzW3Bl/s320/G-+foot+massage.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5561762816191733106" border="0" /></a>Nearly 2 months had gone past when G asked me if I would be angry with him if he decided to not pursue things further with his supposed Domme. I told him that on the contrary I would be relieved if he did and why; something I hadn't done before because I felt it was necessary for him to draw his own conclusions.</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">A few days later he submerged me with text messages explaining why he had finally decided to put an end to a virtual relationship with a person he was now convinced was manipulator and venal. The question now was whether I was willing to continue his education or not and if so under what conditions.</p>Mistress in Francehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10149502800821930695noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3153646439351489377.post-88943620557332035772011-01-10T14:24:00.004+01:002011-01-14T15:02:17.231+01:00Two White Roses and a Shy Smiling Face Looking Down at Me...were the first things I saw on opening the door <a href="http://mistressinfrance.blogspot.com/2010/12/how-stray-pup-ends-up-on-my-doorstep.html">on the appointed date and time</a>. I invited him in, thanked him for the roses and then led him into the living room. <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">I rarely have a sub strip off his clothes straight away on the first visit but I decided to do so this time. I placed a rug on the floor where he was to kneel once he was undressed and then sat on the sofa to enjoy the show. He was quick to obey in spite of his apparent embarrassment and the removed clothing revealed a totally hairless (shaved) body that was visually pleasing to me. The best description I can find is “slightly padded”, not fat but not skinny either; a body that is fun to play with, especially with floggers and other impact toys. </p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">Rather than have him do housework I had him take care of a pair of my leather boots which were in need of a good cleaning. The result was lovely, I'd never seen them shine like that before, but not really surprising as his profession is connected to military.</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">Then I instructed him to make me a cup of tea and here he surprised me by kneeling down before me to present the cup to me without me having tell him to do so.</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">Now that he was visibly a bit more at ease with finding himself naked in front of a woman he'd never met before, I had him kneel before me on the rug again and asked him questions about his desire to serve and submit whilst sipping my tea. The main impression I got throughout the conversation was of a polite, soft-spoken, sincere and motivated sub. Albeit a shy and nervous one. </p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi7QC9XExbcv2DaqwFHKHGKvgn88MIbu4ygTKlnk0VSMZUnJBwikbrV3TOWzY-_6uPQtGTxcHuhIb6qo_aWujt0NbjmSwmuQSTbNx5d8Fdr23qDy1GdoNesbJas9HMFx32y17NT8FBH04AB/s1600/First+light+bondage+session+-+april+2010.jpg"><img style="float: right; margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; cursor: pointer; width: 144px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi7QC9XExbcv2DaqwFHKHGKvgn88MIbu4ygTKlnk0VSMZUnJBwikbrV3TOWzY-_6uPQtGTxcHuhIb6qo_aWujt0NbjmSwmuQSTbNx5d8Fdr23qDy1GdoNesbJas9HMFx32y17NT8FBH04AB/s320/First+light+bondage+session+-+april+2010.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5560548289448595010" border="0" /></a></p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">My tea finished I decided to move on to one of my favourite activities: bondage. This, as every thing else was, was totally new to him so I kept it fairly light and after asking him if he was ok with me taking some photos I slipped a spandex hood on him and started shooting.</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">Then I grabbed my floggers and gave him a small taste of very light flogging but saw that he was less at ease with this. So I had him give me a foot massage which he performed very well. </p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">I only kept him for about an hour and a half before releasing him as I had other things on my agenda, one of which was to inform his Mistress that she had found herself a very promising submissive.</p>Mistress in Francehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10149502800821930695noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3153646439351489377.post-30235429899113226682010-12-05T16:54:00.012+01:002010-12-05T21:38:22.860+01:00How a Stray Pup Finds his Way to My Front Door<p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">A Domme who I had met on a few occasions and chatted with on msn from time to time approached me in late March to ask me if I would be willing to meet a sub she was interested in for her. She lives several hours away from the city in which I and the sub in question both live in and wanted to make sure that he was genuine before starting to make arrangements to meet him in person. In return, and in the event of course that he was a genuine sub, she proposed to lend him to me whenever I wanted to use him.<br /></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">I was in a relationship that was in the process of coming to an end for the second time in 6 months and feeling the frustration that comes from not being able to do all that I had lined up for a sub because he was going cold turkey. So the idea of having access to some no-strings-for-me service and a “victim” to practice on was very tempting and we came to the agreement that I would check him out and even start training him for her.</p> <p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">When she gave me his msn id and told me where he lived I realised that I'd turned this sub down a couple of months previously when he'd contacted me on a dating site. For me he was too young, only 28, and his profession incompatible with the relationship I have in mind. But in the context of our arrangement these arguments became non issues. I wasn't planning on using him for more than some house cleaning and to practice bondage on and I didn't expect the arrangement to last very long either, even if he was as sincere as his Domme seemed to think him to be.<br /></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">A few days later she started up a 3 way chat, gave him his orders (which were to follow mine) and then left us. A rapid webcam session revealed a good looking but shy young man. I answered his questions and reassured him a bit, then, having agreed on a date and time convenient for both of us for him to present himself and serve me for a couple of hours, said goodnight.</p>Mistress in Francehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10149502800821930695noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3153646439351489377.post-63639084557715310922010-12-04T13:51:00.019+01:002010-12-06T23:38:47.258+01:00IntroductionThe purpose of this blog is to share my story, my ideas and my opinions on FemDom. These are obviously a reflection of how I choose to express my dominance and my viewpoint, nothing more, nothing less. So unless you are a submissive male hoping to get to serve me*, you don't have to agree with me. In fact I'm always interested to hear different viewpoints as long as they're not presented to me as the ONLY valid one.<br /><br /><br /><h4>So who am I and what am I about?</h4>I have to admit that this is not a question that is easy to answer when you've got the same feeling you get when leaving a message on an answering machine (yuck!). So I'm just going to have some fun with this and do a "pèle-mèle" portrait of my self.<br /><br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEieSgcSPeeb4XILnKoF1xAfej-hIwp4SgVWIk_ZfgWJ6v8tsYE9TXh6PUDi2YJLZP7lHrTTa2HRvLoF5ZFbK2tEbP9jeGDKuP-wzHrtTDbIFdx5pfcPF2PWjqtsbVp8dKey5VJEuzeA868e/s1600/Oh+darling.JPG"><img style="float: left; margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; cursor: pointer; width: 256px; height: 287px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEieSgcSPeeb4XILnKoF1xAfej-hIwp4SgVWIk_ZfgWJ6v8tsYE9TXh6PUDi2YJLZP7lHrTTa2HRvLoF5ZFbK2tEbP9jeGDKuP-wzHrtTDbIFdx5pfcPF2PWjqtsbVp8dKey5VJEuzeA868e/s320/Oh+darling.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5546830683570400578" border="0" /></a><h4>I sometimes feel like the Domme in the picture on the left</h4><span style="font-size:100%;">(and although divorced, I have found myself in similar situations with my children).</span><br /><br /><br /><br /><h4>Ideally I would like to look something like this:</h4><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhy76i5fgXctYkWtI7CJeX_pZuG-1o-Fh4sySTKXsv5WynE4EYFk24sXLb_pqx3UaVieer1zE0gfDlAZT4x5fG_wY1ZH99sLlvVLQIFVD9NHUmlyxqHDxwoVkaVDyjw7HfBWXUkJF-UhDuw/s1600/9366.jpg"><img style="float: right; margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; cursor: pointer; width: 119px; height: 181px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhy76i5fgXctYkWtI7CJeX_pZuG-1o-Fh4sySTKXsv5WynE4EYFk24sXLb_pqx3UaVieer1zE0gfDlAZT4x5fG_wY1ZH99sLlvVLQIFVD9NHUmlyxqHDxwoVkaVDyjw7HfBWXUkJF-UhDuw/s200/9366.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5546832717049685746" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><h4>But in reality this is what I look like:</h4><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhqav9Qzo1EpJ8bqtkGP-YRVKxURE6P1ztrT6QlOaM4fjcofLU7Lmmn8ABQG8RFfD0drns66PTxY3NoKSvXcSgUGTQWJAsmg6OvWu6QNiDh8j9OMCbqJ0iTJMUhJsZOrXnzbhlLIjx_B22_/s1600/m_in_f.jpg"><img style="float: right; margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; cursor: pointer; width: 162px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhqav9Qzo1EpJ8bqtkGP-YRVKxURE6P1ztrT6QlOaM4fjcofLU7Lmmn8ABQG8RFfD0drns66PTxY3NoKSvXcSgUGTQWJAsmg6OvWu6QNiDh8j9OMCbqJ0iTJMUhJsZOrXnzbhlLIjx_B22_/s320/m_in_f.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5546834752914804946" border="0" /></a><br />(my slave says I'm "maginifique!!!", a lovely typo for those who understand some French, and no that isn't him on the photo)<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><h4><br />For me being the dominant partner is all about:</h4>Growth (his and mine), Responsibility, Respect, Creativity, Educational skills, Self-Mastery, Empathy... and a lot of fun.<br /><br /><br />I don't share the opinion of those who think that women are superior to men and should run the world. In fact I'm more inclined to agree with a recently read tweet :<br /><br /><blockquote>If women ruled the world there would be no wars. Just a bunch of jealous countries not talking to each other. </blockquote><br />I personally don't feel superior to anyone, or inferior for that matter and I'm not looking for inferiority, I'm looking for <span style="font-weight: bold;">complementarity</span>.<br /><br /><br /><h4>Experience</h4>An observer all my life<br />10 years of active kink<br />5 years as a Domme<br />8 months and still going strong as the owner of a slave who is surpassing my dreams.<br /><br /><br /><h4>Goals</h4>My main goal at this moment is to carry on educating my slave the best I can whilst putting in place the means for us to live our relationship the way we both desire to: to the full. Neither of us are looking for a OWK style relationship but we do want to have the privacy and leisure to live on our own terms which are of course My terms.<br /><br />Misc.<br /><br />Most of the people I socialize with are into different flavours of BDSM.<br /><br />Tomorrow I will start telling the story of how a sub who seemed the least suitable choice for me is turning out to be one of the best things that have happened in my life.<br /><br /><span style="font-size:85%;">*Note to submissive males: If you stick around a little while you will see that I am not currently looking for another sub. This will change in the future but will take place through a different channel so please realise that any solicitations via this blog will be ignored - thanks.</span>Mistress in Francehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10149502800821930695noreply@blogger.com2