Introducing C

C first contacted me last summer with an pm on Fetlife. Not really the place I expected to find a submissive, even if I do receive pms from submissives seeking a relationship from time to time, but then life is full of surprises and sometimes they are good ones. He very politely explained that he had had phantasms since his adolescence (he's 32, the same age as Follow) but as he had never encountered someone with whom he could explore them they had so far remained just phantasms and so he had decided that it was time to actively search someone experienced. Which is why he was contacting me as he had seen my profile on a regional bdsm site and found me on Fetlife (I discovered later on that he had scoured this blog as well but he hasn't been back since I told him which ISP he uses and how I know lol). 

I responded with an invitation to tell me more about his phantasms and we continued to exchange messages throughout the following few months (summer holidays and a peak work load meant that it wasn't possible for me to initiate a physical meeting for some time). His phantasms are quite different to Follow's (except for bondage) and I saw the possibility of exploring things that hadn't really been possible with F because F wasn't really into pain (well he was more towards the end than in the beginning but he still didn't get any pleasure out of being flogged more than lightly and I find no pleasure in inflicting pain on someone who doesn't enjoy it).

Exploring new things and initiating a novice are things I enjoy and so without any expectations as to where this would go, invited C to my place at the beginning of November with the reassurance that he would live to tell the tale. 

He was very nervous when he arrived "armed" with a box of (absolutely delicious, no, scrumptious would be a better word) chocolates. We had a drink and chatted a bit before I had him strip off his clothes, collared him, and then lead him upstairs to my bedroom where I have all my instruments and a four-poster bed which serves as a good replacement for a St Andrew's cross. There I tied him between the posts and we started our exploration of the real extent of his masochism. Nipple clamps, flogging, whipping, he soaked it all in and had a hard-on most of the time. After-care consisted of more chatting and another drink before sending him home. It wasn't easy to tell what was going on inside him but C had no problems expressing that by email the next day when things had had time to settle a little. The resulting email described the sensations and emotions he had experienced, the effect they (and the marks on his body) continued to have on him throughout the following day and expressed the desire to be allowed to come and kneel at my feet again.

And so began an interesting exploration of which I will talk more about in the following days and, I hope, months.

Introduction

The purpose of this blog is to share my story, my ideas and my opinions on FemDom. These are obviously a reflection of how I choose to express my dominance and my viewpoint, nothing more, nothing less. So unless you are a submissive male hoping to get to serve me*, you don't have to agree with me. In fact I'm always interested to hear different viewpoints as long as they're not presented to me as the ONLY valid one.

So who am I and what am I about?

I have to admit that this is not a question that is easy to answer when you've got the same feeling you get when leaving a message on an answering machine (yuck!). So I'm just going to have some fun with this and do a "pèle-mèle" portrait of my self.

I sometimes feel like the Domme in the picture on the left

(and although divorced, I have found myself in similar situations with my children).

Ideally I would like to look something like this:

But in reality this is what I look like:

(my slave says I'm "maginifique!!!", a lovely typo for those who understand some French, and no that isn't him on the photo)

For me being the dominant partner is all about:

Growth (his and mine), Responsibility, Respect, Creativity, Educational skills, Self-Mastery, Empathy... and a lot of fun.


I don't share the opinion of those who think that women are superior to men and should run the world. In fact I'm more inclined to agree with a recently read tweet :

If women ruled the world there would be no wars. Just a bunch of jealous countries not talking to each other.

I personally don't feel superior to anyone, or inferior for that matter and I'm not looking for inferiority, I'm looking for complementarity.

Experience

An observer all my life
10 years of active kink
5 years as a Domme
8 months and still going strong as the owner of a slave who is surpassing my dreams.

Goals

My main goal at this moment is to carry on educating my slave the best I can whilst putting in place the means for us to live our relationship the way we both desire to: to the full. Neither of us are looking for a OWK style relationship but we do want to have the privacy and leisure to live on our own terms which are of course My terms.

Misc.

Most of the people I socialize with are into different flavours of BDSM.

Tomorrow I will start telling the story of how a sub who seemed the least suitable choice for me is turning out to be one of the best things that have happened in my life.

*Note to submissive males: If you stick around a little while you will see that I am not currently looking for another sub. This will change in the future but will take place through a different channel so please realise that any solicitations via this blog will be ignored - thanks.